Handling Frustration

Golf can be a very frustrating game if you allow it to be. Here is a typical comment I received from an honest golfer, "I know that I get nervous when I'm having a good round, then start screwing up as a result. I know I get frustrated when I'm having a bad round and it just gets worse". Does this sound like someone you know?

Losing a tournament in a play off frustrates even accomplished professional golfers. Plus, the best golf courses are designed to be difficult to emotionally frustrate a golfer. Yes, Old Man Golf just loves to frustrate you and leave you talking or cursing to yourself. Yet, golfers can't wait to play another round of golf. Don't you love this game of golf?

Frustration is easier to handle if you understand why it exists. Frustration is caused by not accomplishing or getting what you want. You can reduce your frustrations by focusing on what you can achieve and then build on your successes, instead of dwelling on your failures or frustrations. You can not control the outcome, but you can control the process.

Here is a simple game plan that will reduce your frustrations. First, start by selecting only one or two mechanical or mental processes to work on at a time. Once you master the process, your golf will improve and you will lower your score.

Pick small process goals initially. After you master small goals, move on to larger ones. It could be improving your putting, chipping or any other golf shot.

Change takes time because your tape is very good at keeping you where you are. It is almost impossible to change over night, so there is no need to get frustrated. Just acknowledge that it will take time to change and take it one step at a time.

This will relieve a lot of frustration if you are honest with yourself and acknowledge your present limitations. As you gain more control over yourself and improve the process, you will become less frustrated and more confident in your ability to eventually succeed.

Here are some comments from one golfer who is learning to handle her frustrations. "I tried to be a hero in the crab grass and it cost me a bundle. I stayed calm, kept breathing, took the thoughts out and merely said, 'See it, then do it'. After I simplified things, my game was more productive and MUCH more enjoyable. Things will always get better, the steps in golf are just smaller".

If you learn to walk before you run, you will be less frustrated and more successful in the long run.

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